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Because SHE Matters

  • Writer: Saadique A Basu
    Saadique A Basu
  • Jan 16
  • 3 min read

I did not truly understand what it meant to raise a girl until I held my daughter for the first time. In that moment, the world shifted. I no longer looked at society as a man who moved through it with ease, but as a father responsible for preparing a child who would have to navigate it with courage.


Suddenly, questions became personal. Would she be safe? Would she be heard? Would her dreams be protected—or negotiated away?


As a husband to an independent, working woman, I have seen strength up close—not the kind that seeks applause, but the kind that balances ambition with responsibility, confidence with compassion. I have watched my wife make professional choices with clarity, carry emotional labour without complaint, and still be expected to “adjust” more than I ever was. Through her, I learnt that equality is not declared; it is practiced daily.


Parenthood sharpened this understanding. I want my daughter to grow up knowing that her voice matters, that her worth is not measured by sacrifice, and that ambition is not something she must justify. Yet I am aware that the world will try to teach her otherwise—subtly at first, and then more firmly.


I see how early it begins. Girls are praised for obedience before curiosity, for silence before confidence. Safety is taught as restriction rather than assurance. Dreams are encouraged—but only until they become inconvenient. These lessons may not always be intentional, but they are powerful.


As a father, I refuse to let those be her only lessons.


As a husband, I understand that empowering girls and women cannot rest on their shoulders alone. Men must participate—not as guardians, but as partners. That starts at home. By sharing responsibilities, by listening without correcting, by respecting professional aspirations as equal to our own, and by raising sons who see equality as normal—not negotiable.


Empowerment is not about making women tougher; it is about making spaces fairer. It is about ensuring education without conditions, safety without restrictions, and respect without qualifiers. It is about creating a world where my daughter will not need extraordinary resilience to live an ordinary life.


I dream of a future where she is not introduced as “someone’s daughter” or “someone’s wife,” but as herself. A future where my wife’s independence is not admired as exceptional, but accepted as standard. A future where partnership replaces permission.


When I look at my daughter, I do not see someone who needs to be shaped to fit the world—I see someone who deserves a world that fits her. And when I look at my wife, I see proof that when women are trusted with freedom and choice, families and societies grow stronger.


As a father, my role is not to teach my daughter how to tolerate inequality, but to ensure she never learns to accept it. As a husband, I do not “support” my wife’s independence as a favour—I respect it as a right. And as a man, I choose to speak up where silence has been convenient.


The empowerment of girls and women does not begin with slogans; it begins at home, in everyday conversations and choices. Because empowerment is not about giving women a voice—they have always had one. It is about finally listening.


This is not just about raising strong girls.


It is about building a stronger, fairer future—for everyone.


This post is a part of ‘Voices of Her Blog Hop’ hosted by Manali Desai and Sukaina Majeed under #EveryConversationMatters blog hop series

 
 
 

2 Comments


Guest
20 hours ago

You have rightly highlighted the rrole of men in creating women's safety. Crimes against women are alarmingly on the rise day after day. The change in attitudes must start at home.

Tomichan Matheikal

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Anamika
2 days ago

Thank you Saadique! We need more husbands and fathers like you!

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